November 11, 2015
Learning to Swim
Soon, my family and I will head to California to spread my mom's ashes. Since her death, I've had nothing but time for reflection. These are 10 things I've learned:
1. No matter how prepared you think you are for a death, you can never be fully prepared for the loss and the grief.
2. However much you think it will hurt, it is going to be so much worse.
3. Death makes people awkward and uncomfortable. It sucks, because it's when you need them most.
4. Chances are you might not get the support you need.
5. When you do, you'll find it is difficult to identify your needs.
6. You'll be envious of those that still have their parents and/or grandparents.
7. You will find yourself in fits of anger; wishing others could gain some perspective.
8. You become part of a club that no one wishes to join; yet, the members are the only ones who may begin to understand how you feel.
9. The waves of gutting emotion may wane, but they never disappear.
10. It will change you.